We've all heard the stories. How Officer wives think they're better and are stuck up. When I heard these stories I laughed. I told my friend I've met nice people so far this has to be a lie. Man was I wrong! I had my first experience with some officer wives that weren't so friendly. The truth be told that there are a lot of nice ones but there are a lot that believe back in the old days where officers are high above everyone else.
Let me give you just a little info on the incendent I had with the wife. I'm not a pfc's wife trying to go to an Officers wives meeting. I don't want to go in details and again I don't think rank should matter, but my husband is a SNCO and normally SNCO and officers have functions/meetings together. They are equivalent. Just one has earned their title while the other chose to go through school to get theirs. Nothing is wrong with either way. They just chose different paths but yet still want to achieve the same goal.
Rank to me doesn't matter. It's our husbands that wear the ranks not us. I've accomplished enough in my life that I'm proud of who I am and can stand strong on my own two feet. I don't need my husbands accomplishments to make me stand out in the crowd. If a pfc's spouse is in need to talk with someone they should be able to contact any wife in the military and have them listen and not judge. To have them be there for a support system. All of us women are going through an emotional time. We all cry. We all stand by and support our husbands. We all welcome Marines in and out of our homes and our lives without any question of who they are or if they're intentions are good or not. All of our hearts swell from the sight of the American Flag and all of us get goosebumbs and immediately think of our husbands, friends and loved ones who are serving or have served when we hear the National Anthem being sung.
Yes I know how the rank structure works. I know your not suppose to associate with certain ranks once your a certain rank. But thats the old days and even if you believe that still ... again that is for our husbands not the wives. We shouldn't be judging.
If I listened to that rank structure that my husband has to go by I wouldn't have met some amazing friends that have helped me through some hard times. I have friends that their husbands are lower ranks and some that are higher and I'm there for each one of them the same.
Another wife (actually an officers wife...see not all are bad lol) and I are planning on starting our own group. A group for all wives, girlfriends and fiance's to come and talk and have some wine or coffee or whatever and make new friends and have a strong support from women who are going through the same thing. And even though the officer wives turned away me from coming to their group I'd still welcome them to ours because like I said we all need support now and then.
One last note. I've seen some military spouses turn their noses up at girlfriends or fiances. They think because they're not married yet that they don't deserve to be included in the things Military Wives are. Well thats bullshit. They still have a hard time. They still have the love for their significant other. A ring and a piece of paper doesn't determine how much someone loves that person. I will admit being a spouse does have some more burdens but as far as the emotional part of it.....we are still all feeling the same way and want our military men home safe and sound in bed next to us
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